So you have a dream. Something that you really want. Perhaps something that you have always wanted or maybe something you have just recently come to understand you want. You have a dream.
There are ways to get exactly what you want – even if it seems impossible.
Time to make it happen. You can do it!
#1 – Know what EXACTLY it is you want.
In order to get what you want to have to know exactly what it is you want.
I have a client who hired me because she wanted to move and she needed support to do so. “What,” I asked her, “does that mean, specifically?”
She wasn’t sure. She was renting and she hated her apartment. So I asked some questions.
Did she want to move to another apartment or a house? Did she want to continue to rent or to buy? Did she like her neighborhood or did she want to make a big move?
After some discussion she decided that she wanted to stay in her neighborhood and buy either a town home or an apartment.
She knew what she wanted. Next we started working on getting it for her.
#2 – Start taking steps NOW!
One of the biggest obstacles to getting what we want is that we get overwhelmed. The distance that we have to travel, and the obstacles that we have to overcome, can often times seem too overwhelming and so we stop before we even start.
For my client who wanted to move, she was so overwhelmed at the prospect of BUYING A HOUSE. So, instead on focusing on BUYING A HOUSE, I suggested that her first step was to go online and find some listings that she liked. Just to do that. When she was ready she would go look at some of them. The actual BUYING A HOUSE would be further down the road, when the time came.
She was not overwhelmed by the prospect of looking at some listings. So she did and she was off.
#3 – Recognize your fears.
Fear is one of the biggest obstacles for getting what we want. Fear that we won’t get what we want. Fear that we will get hurt along the way. Fear that we will get what we want and then what will we do?
Identifying fears is the only way to deal with them.
For my client her fears were many.
She was scared of the process of looking at houses. So we started slowly with identifying listings and then moved onto actually looking.
She was scared that she wouldn’t find something she liked that she could afford. So she looked at many different places in her price range so she see what her options were.
She was scared of the mortgage process. So I had her meet with a mortgage broker who could walk her through the process.
Fears are going to happen but if you identify them, one at a time, you can deal with them.
#4 – NO second guessing.
For many of us we know what we want but other people have opinions and as a result we often lose sight of what that really is. Perhaps your dream gets modified because of something your mom suggests. Or perhaps you don’t believe you can do it because your sister reminds you that you have never succeeded before.
Don’t let this happen. Know what you want. Write it down. Write down the path to getting it. Write down the obstacles that will present themselves. Write down your fears.
When someone tries to question you, refer to your lists, remind yourself what it is that you want, that you know how to get there and that you are going to. No matter what!
You can do it!
#5 – Never never never give up.
Yes, obstacles are going to arise, fears are going to rear their ugly head and you are going to get supremely overwhelmed. And this is where many people give up. I mean, if the House can’t get the votes to repeal and replace Obamacare the first time out then it should be the law of the land forever. Right? NO!
When obstacles and fears present themselves, take them one at a time and deal with them. My client looked at house after house after house and was increasingly desolate that she would never find one. I told her to keep it up. And she did!
Until, you guessed it, she found an apartment. The apartment of her dreams.
She never gave up and she got exactly what she wanted.
You have a dream. I know you do. And you can get it. Exactly as you want it. You just need to know what it is, see how to get there, slay obstacles one by one and never give up.
Really, how hard is that? YOU can totally do it. My client did.
And yes, she is living happily ever after…..
If you have read this far you must really want something.
Let me help you, NOW, so you don’t have to wait!
Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and let’s get started!
I am a NYC based Certified Life Coach and mental health advocate. My writing has been published on The Huffington Post, Prevention, Psych Central, Pop Sugar, MSN and The Good Man Project, among others. I work with all kinds of people to help them go from depressed and overwhelmed to confident and happy in their relationships and in their world.