Are you madly in love and want nothing more than to know what you can do to show your woman you love her?
Good for you for knowing how important this is and making the effort to find out what the best way is to do it.
Having been a life coach for many years, and being a woman for even more, I can tell you quite clearly what you can do to show your woman you love her.
#1 – Listen and don’t try to fix her.
One of men’s best personality traits is that they are fixers. Give them a problem and what they want to do more than anything is to fix it.
Unfortunately, women don’t want to be fixed. They want to be listened to. They want to be acknowledged. They want to know that their man hears them and sees them and understands what they’re going through.
So, next time your woman is sitting on the couch feeling very sad, ask her what is wrong and then listen to what she tells you. Tell her that you hear what she is saying and that you are very sorry. And then ask her what she needs from you. Don’t give her advice, just ask her what she needs.
This might seem like a very simple thing, but it is what women want more than anything. To be heard but not fixed.
#2 – Anticipate her needs.
I used tell my clients who are unhappy in love that to expect your man to anticipate your needs is to open yourself up for disappointment. Women want more than anything for their men to anticipate their needs but many men just don’t know how to do it.
I used to tell them that their friends, their sisters and their mothers are the ones who can anticipate their needs without even batting an eye, so rely on them to do so.
That being said, I now do believe it is possible for men, if they want to, to anticipate the needs of their woman. I haven’t always believed this but now I am in a relationship with a man who does pay attention and follows through and my attitude has changed.
So, what do I mean by anticipating the needs of your woman? Quite simply it’s no more than paying attention and taking action.
Every night, I sleep with extra blankets on my side of the bed. More often than not, after I brush my teeth, I go to my bedroom and discover that my boyfriend already took the blankets out of the closet and put them on my side of the bed. Every time he does this, I feel loved. I know it’s a little thing but it shows that he’s paying attention.
Having men anticipate the little things is very important women. If you can anticipate what she might need, and follow through with action, you will really show your woman you love her.
#3 – Notice her.
When was the last time you told your woman how beautiful she looked? When was the last time you told your woman what a great mom she is or how much you love her?
Do you assume that you don’t need to say those things because she knows? If that is the case, I am sorry to say, you’re very wrong.
Women need to be noticed. They need to know you see them, that you see the way they look, the way they act and the way you feel about them. Unfortunately, the longer we are in a relationship, the less we get acknowledged for how amazing we are. I know you’re probably still thinking that she’s amazing but you might forget to tell her.
So, take every opportunity that you can to notice your woman. To tell her the amazing things that you see her do. That you love her very much.
If you want to show your woman you love her, make her feel seen.
#4 – Hold her hand.
Women love holding hands. There is nothing better than walking down the street holding your man’s hand as you go. That long ago moment when a boy reached for her hand in the movie theater was the first moment that your woman knew how it felt to be cared for.
Holding hands seems like very little thing but for women it can be more intimate than sex. The physical contact, without expectation of anything more, makes us feel special and loved and way more likely to want to give more.
The next time you’re walking with your woman, reach over and take her hand. If you do this you can show your woman you love her in a very simple way.
#5 – Learn her Love Language.
I truly believe that one of the best tools you can use to show your woman you love her is Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. Go to the website right now and check out the quiz.
The premise behind his book is that there are five love languages, five ways that people express and receive love.
The languages are: Quality Time, Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service and Giving of Gifts.
For each person one of those things is the thing that makes them feel the most loved when they are done unto them. When a partner tries to love them using a different love language they don’t feel loved.
My love language is Quality Time – I feel loved when someone is truly present with me, listening to me, focusing on me. My ex-husbands’ love language was Physical Touch – he felt love when I was holding his hand, hugging him or, yep, that too.
Unfortunately, the language that we spoke best with each other was Acts of Service – we did things for each other, like changing the oil in the car or going to the grocery store. Stuff got done but neither of us felt loved.
Check out the 5 Love Language at www.5lovelanguages.com. There you will find a short quiz that you and your partner can both take and you can start loving each other in a way that will work.
Good for you for trying to figure out what you can do to show your woman you love her.
Relationships are long and hard and understanding now what you can do to keep the love strong is very important.
So, go to the 5 Love Languages website to learn what your girl’s love language is. Make an effort to listen to her without trying to fix her, to anticipate her needs, to see her and to hold her hand.
Doing the simple things will make her feel loved, will make your relationship stronger and will make you both happy.
Don’t be intimidated! You can do this!
If you have read this far you must have a woman you really love.
Let me help you, NOW, so that you can start her TODAY!
I am a NYC based Certified Life Coach and mental health advocate. My writing has been published on The Huffington Post, Prevention, Psych Central, Pop Sugar, MSN and The Good Man Project, among others. I work with all kinds of people to help them go from depressed and overwhelmed to confident and happy in their relationships and in their world.